BEHIND CLOSED DOORS

Women are nurturers by nature therefore we tend to nurture our pain. Nurturing our pain is unfortunately very unhealthy to our beings . To fully let go of our pain & move on , it's necessary that , you let go & forgive. Forgiving doesn't eradicate nor does it exonerate the perpetrator. Instead it frees you of all anger, sorrow and pain. It frees you of all mental & emotional slavery.  When u nurture your own pain , it becomes cancerous . "When you hold on to your history , you do it at the expense of your destiny" - Pastor TD Jakes  You have to love people on the level at which they are , you may not be able to salvage the relationship (love interest , friendship , family member) but you can still save yourself . Freedom comes from recognizing that , forgiveness & letting go  doesn't make  you Weak. It actually means you're strong enough to cast down the idols of your history . You refuse to further allow the pain & anger you feel tow...

You can't be eager for love but be afraid of commitment.... 

In a relationship , it's a collective effort to uplift and enhahce the lives of each other. Your partner is to uplift you not depress you . If you find yourself questioning yourself , your worth , your position etc . You might want to step back & evaluate your relationship.  It's the duty of your partner to relieve you of your burdens & not add to your burdens.  Misconception : people often believe that it's their partners duty to make them feel better or better yet rid them of their insecurities and self esteem issues . I'm here to tell you that's wrong. It's your duty to love yourself , it's Also your duty to invest in yourself .  Insecurities are pre existing conditions , your partner may have triggered it but they are more often than not already planted.  Instead of focusing on your partner , do yourself and favor and focus on yourself & identify the source of these feelings.   Your only competition is you , you're your own worst critic. ...

When I say healthy living , I'm not limiting it to just eating clean/dieting. I'm referring to living healthy in general. A process of detoxing/removing all toxic things and people from your life . To maintain a healthy life , one must nourish all areas of your life .  Detail : you must rid yourself of all negative people & things . People & things that have failed to enhahce your life but yet engage you in negativity and counterproductive outcomes.  You should maintain a healthy balance between your career, social life , family & intimate life . All elements of your life should not add stress to your livelihood but instead empower your life as a whole. It's imperative that you focus on the internal first then tackle the external . When I say internal , I'm referring to your mind, heart, body & soul . External would be your social life, career etc.  None of these elements should pull you in one direction. You should examine yourself & ask yourself if...

Denial : when the mind psychologically protects you from truth . It's the best known defense mechanisms.  It is often used to describe situations in which people are unable to face reality or admit an obvious truth. Denial functions to protect the ego from things that an individual cannot cope with. While this may save us from anxiety or pain, denial also requires a substantial investment of energy. I've lived In Denial for a very long time , I either deny or repress my feelings. It's always been better than facing reality head on. Oh boy was I wrong ; these feelings always have a way of resurfacing and rearing it's ugly little head.  Tips on coping :  Focus on the things you've tried to ignore.Look for the truth in those things you've been trying to ignore and avoid. Is there some truth in what people have been telling you? If so, what do you plan to do about it? Allow yourself to feel and experience the truth. It's not pleasant to face aspects of yourself ...