Uplift

In a relationship , it's a collective effort to uplift and enhahce the lives of each other. Your partner is to uplift you not depress you . If you find yourself questioning yourself , your worth , your position etc . You might want to step back & evaluate your relationship. 
It's the duty of your partner to relieve you of your burdens & not add to your burdens. 

Misconception : people often believe that it's their partners duty to make them feel better or better yet rid them of their insecurities and self esteem issues . I'm here to tell you that's wrong. It's your duty to love yourself , it's Also your duty to invest in yourself . 

Insecurities are pre existing conditions , your partner may have triggered it but they are more often than not already planted. 
Instead of focusing on your partner , do yourself and favor and focus on yourself & identify the source of these feelings.  
Your only competition is you , you're your own worst critic. 

Another Misconception : most people ignore the signs & hold on to relationships way longer than they should in hopes of things getting better. I think it's essential that, you know it's okay to let go & move on . Especially if you have exhausted all means & ways to maintain the relationship and it was to NO avail. 

Of course , you'll grieve and be depressed ; that's all apart of the letting go/healing process . It's necessary to go through that phase but just make sure you don't stay there . Make sure you're not stuck in that conflicting phase. You can't be conflicted over doing what's best for you . Don't agonize over your decision. You'll be doing yourself a huge disservice. 
Sometimes the end of your relationship is the beginning of your life 

People also think their partners will eventually grow to love them or they can change their partners over the course of time. You can't change someone whom isn't willing & ready to change . It's not your duty to change anyone. You only get better once you acknowledge you deserve better. Your worth isn't contingent on the actions or behaviors of another. Their behaviors or inability to recognize or appreciate you isn't a reflection of you it's infact a reflection of them . 

The one who fell & got up is a lot stronger than the one whom never fell 

Yours truly blackkk_rose

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