BEHIND CLOSED DOORS

Everyone's relationships are different. But sometimes we face similar issues. Most people have  this misconception that a relationship should be peaceful , without conflict and stress. Well that's very unlikely and unrealistic. Relationships are a lot of work, they take time and patience. I mean lots of patience because lord knows there are times where I was just about ready to knock his dom off . Conflicts in relationships doesn't negate the love that's present , it simply  means there are differences that need to be ironed out. I've been in relationships in the past but i must say this is my most mature relationship yet. I'm still learning along the way ;I have learned to be more understanding , patient, domestic 😒, I have also learned to effectively communicate my needs and wants. In the past , I have always had this need to be right to prove my partner wrong . I found that such a mentality/ maladaptive behavior can be extremely detrimental to the relationsh...

The love of my life celebrated his birthday  this past week,  He's never really celebrated any of his past birthdays so I  made it my mission to ensure that he had the best birthday ever. since he's a real stickler when it comes to birthdays.  A month prior to this birthday, I asked what he planned on doing and per usual his response was "nothing". Now for those that know me know that i absolutely love birthdays so there was no way in hell that I would sit back and watch him not celebrate yet another birthday. Not on my watch , it wasn't happening . No sir !!! I made reservations for a suite at nylo hotel in Warwick RI. Booked him a full body massage at the spa , ordered a 18X24 canvas of him and his daughter.  I decided on a more simplified scavenger hunt to get the ball rolling. I would text him a countdown daily as the weekend slowly approached.  First clue : " On September 17th my heart was born. As we celebrate another year of blessings together , let...