Relationship struggles

Everyone's relationships are different. But sometimes we face similar issues. Most people have this misconception that a relationship should be peaceful , without conflict and stress. Well that's very unlikely and unrealistic. Relationships are a lot of work, they take time and patience. I mean lots of patience because lord knows there are times where I was just about ready to knock his dom off . Conflicts in relationships doesn't negate the love that's present , it simply means there are differences that need to be ironed out. I've been in relationships in the past but i must say this is my most mature relationship yet. I'm still learning along the way ;I have learned to be more understanding , patient, domestic 😒, I have also learned to effectively communicate my needs and wants. In the past , I have always had this need to be right to prove my partner wrong . I found that such a mentality/ maladaptive behavior can be extremely detrimental to the relationship. Even the smallest disagreements can get blown out of proportion leaving you feeling disconnected from the one person you love most. It's just not worth it !!!! 
I love my boyfriend dearly and he has certainly enriched my life in more ways than one and vice versa. I am emotionally and spiritually supported where I feel backed & supported no matter what. I'm a hypersensitive person so I may have a tendency to blow things out of proportion & he gracefully puts up with it. There are instances where he checks me for my quick temper and stubbornness where I may be a tad bit resistant initially. However, after I calm down I'm able to acknowledge that the feedback comes from a place of love. My boyfriend aka my annoying terrorist drives me crazy and I mean literally sometimes but like I previously stated relationships are a lot of work but not forever. As time goes on , it gets easier.. Don't let the struggles deter you from the reward that lies ahead. There's always light at the end of the tunnel ..relationships aren't perfect but God is and with him as our foundation. We should do just fine ... Goodnight readers ❤️💋🌹







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