New journey

I decided to be celibate for obvious reasons that are known to most and those are as follows:

 1. I am a Christian, and I firmly believe in the Bible. Hebrews 13:4, NKJV states: “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” I know it’s considered ancient, outdated to believe in or to practice celibacy based on the Bible, but it is enough reason for me to practice it until marriage.

I rather obey the Lord's command than obeying the desires of the flesh. Im not condemning anyone, but I'm just telling the truth of what the Bible says. The truth from the Bible is what changed me from my old ways. 1 Corinthians 6:9

 

Have I fornicated in the past absolutely, I would be a liar and a phony to sit here and say that I have never engaged in any sexual activity. To some I may be a baby Christian since I am still learning the ropes of living righteously. Is it hard? Ummm yes but is it rewarding and fulfilling? YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

I have experience from both sides of the fence, I have done all the things that one may be label as “worldly” and now I am embarking on a new journey. This is a journey that requires me to deepen and strengthen my relationship with God. A journey that I am more than willing and committed to fulfilling and with the Grace of God I will overcome all temptations and hurdles.

Sometimes I look at my boyfriend as he looks all handsome and yummy after a fresh cut and I just have to start praying because the devil is a liar. Lol

I will not succumb to the flesh; I will not be a victim of my flesh and urges. We are human and it is absolutely naturaland normal to have urges and desires but it is not okay foryour life to revolve around these desires and urges. 

 

I’ve always also believed in God and what the bible preaches but I never fully and whole heartedly practiced what it preached, I decided to walk with Him in 2015. I had experienced a few rough years and I had tried muscling through it on my own and all approaches proved to be futile so I decided to try a different approach, an approach that was way out of my comfort zone. An approach that was very unfamiliar and frightening to say the least but like they say unfamiliarity is a catalyst for change. I’m elated to say that those stormy days are over but the journey didn’t stop there. It had to continue and it had to grow, expand, develop and mature and that’s when I decided that I had to make more sacrifices and a few more lifestyle changes which brings me to today’s topic of celibacy. I accepted him as my lord and savior but I could do more to show that I am true to this journey and that’s when my boyfriend and I vowed to be celibate until marriage. He was right on board and I must say it was refreshing to have someone that was supportive and true to the journey.

 

I also have other reasons which are listed below:

 

2. I don’t have to live in fear getting pregnant unexpectedly. I know there are “precautions” that we can use and many of them work well when used properly, but there are MANY people who thought they were safe and were still “caught”. As one of my social media friends pointed out recently, we save a LOT of money when we don’t have to purchase birth control or condoms or take frequent tests to ensure that we did not pick up a disease. I don’t think the 15 minutes of pleasure is worth the angst that follows thereafter.

 

3. My heart is free. The issue of soul ties where we are intimately connected to everyone we’ve ever slept with is REAL. Having to untangle my heart and my soul from several men is, thankfully, something I am not struggling with at this time. I had to work through that issue when my last relationship ended which was a tough situation. With healing comes the realization that I don’t want to go down that path again unnecessarily (or EVER).

 

4. My conscience is clear. It is human nature to rationalize what we want to accept, whether it is the right thing to do or not. I’m very hard on myself in many areas of life because I want to reach higher and grow wiser and stronger in Christ. If I need to justify my behavior to feel good about myself even at the expense of my testimony and my relationship with God, I think I would lose that fight.  Because God created marriage as the context for intimacy and procreation, as a single woman I have asked Him to help me honor my vow to live out His Word. I also don’t like sitting in the church and my pastor is preaching a certain message and I know I am guilty. It is a horrible feeling to know that the message pertains to you; I did not and do not want to be a hypocrite.

 

5. I’m setting an example for those that look up to me and for others to follow. We still live fulfilled pleasurable and productive lives without sex (which includes masturbation and viewing pornography). We are free to pursue our purposes when we are not focusing all our energies on satiating our feelings and desires.

Are there challenges in maintaining celibacy? Of course! I’m human and I know what intimacy is like. Some of us have asked why God has given us these urges, if we weren’t supposed to act on them. I think of it in this way: We are given appetites for food, for sex and for other things. If we act on our appetites inappropriately, we reap the consequences of those actions. If we eat at the wrong times (e.g. too late at night) or if we eat the wrong foods OR too much food, we will experience weight and health issues. If we eat in the proper context (eating to live versus living to eat), we maintain a healthy weight with fewer health issues. In that same way, practicing restraint in sexual activities and keeping it within the context that God created it for (which is marriage) makes it fun and a GOOD thing! When children are conceived in a healthy marriage there is a secure nuclear unit, which is the ideal home environment for them.

I am determined to keep the big picture always in the forefront. I am willing to sacrifice a momentary pleasure that has the ability to derail the rest of my life and I am choosing instead to WAIT until I say “I do”.

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