DOUBTS

 You know that voice in your head that says…

You can’t do it. You’ll never be good enough. You’re going to fail.

This voice taunts you whenever you set a goal. It criticizes you when life gets difficult. It beats you down when you struggle to stand up against its running commentary. You're not alone 

I experience self doubt more often than not . It is awful , I am my own worst critic. I have this terrible habit of doubting myself. My worst fear is not "making" it so I tend to overwhelm myself when not warranted. My fear of failure probes me to over exert myself and that's not entirely healthy . At one point or another, we all question whether or not we are doing enough, making enough money, or if we are going to be “successful” enough. I know this firsthand, as I’ve spent long periods of my young adult life in a persistent state of fear and self-doubt. Ive held onto jobs, toxic relationships, and draining friendships because I thought that if I left them, I’d be a quitter.

I doubted myself to the point that I was making my decisions based on whatothers wanted of me, and not what I wanted for myself. I was constantly struggling with confidence and always second-guessing myself.

What I’ve learned from my experiences is that if I don’t nip the self-limiting thoughts in the bud right away, this “woe is me” mindset can become debilitating. 

A lot of self-doubt comes from our expectations of ourselves and of others. If you are expecting everything in your life to go smoothly and not to make any mistakes, well you’ll be in for a rude awakening.

**Well this is my last post in a while since I'm taking some time off for myself . Time to revamp,regroup, focus. However be on the lookout this summer or early fall for the launch of my organization . Details will be released in due time. If you need to contact me , feel free to contact me via email- behindclosedoorz25@gmail.com or if you have any topics you'd like me to touch on or write about upon my return. Also, State if you'd like to be anonymous or not.. Thank you guys so much for all the love and support!!! Your emails , text messages, shares, comments , likes etc are greatly appreciated. I'm very much humbled!!!  *** ❤️❤️❤️ 




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